Myss Meka, author of Lessons Learned From the Connectivity of Grief, brings a raw, reflective voice to the subject of loss. Born in New Brunswick, New Jersey, and shaped by a childhood marked by instability, family disruption, and trauma, Meka describes her story as “the gift of my struggle” and the foundation of her decision to rise in the face of obstacles. In her new book, she transforms lived experience into an exploration of grief, identity, survival, and the difficult work of becoming whole.
The book began as a tribute to her brother, Richard Jeremy Horsey, who died on June 21, 2025, and to her mother, Vera Jean, whose death had long shaped Meka’s understanding of sorrow, family, and responsibility. What started as an attempt to honor them grew into something larger: a book about healing from grief while actively grieving. For Meka, the process was not polished or detached. It was honest, uncomfortable, and deeply personal.
In Lessons Learned From the Connectivity of Grief, Meka moves beyond the idea that grief belongs only to death. She writes about the grief that comes from lost relationships, family wounds, unfulfilled lives, jobs, friendships, homes, and the quiet patterns people carry without naming them. Structured around Reflection, Renew, Resonate, and Resolve, the book follows her as she confronts generational trauma, examines the ways she and her brother processed pain, and begins to recognize cycles she no longer wants to repeat.
At its heart, this is not simply a book about sorrow. It is a portrait of an author choosing to stand in her truth. Meka acknowledges that one of the hardest parts of writing the book was recognizing her own role in allowing certain patterns to continue. That self-examination became part of the healing. Through it, she found a clearer sense of who she was, who she is, and who she chooses to become.
Her message is both personal and universal: people are more connected than they often realize. Meka believes readers from many backgrounds will find a piece of themselves in the book because grief, in its many forms, touches everyone. Her hope is that readers will not only see their pain reflected, but also feel less alone and more willing to do the internal work healing requires.
With Lessons Learned From the Connectivity of Grief, Myss Meka offers more than a memoir. She offers a fearless conversation about loss, truth, family, and the courage to bring what has been hidden in the dark into the light.
About the Author
Myss Meka is an author and storyteller whose work explores grief, survival, generational trauma, self-understanding, and healing.